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Sex - not for amateurs

by KandAmoist @ 29/08/2007 – 15:43:46

Sparked by Sidejump's recent blog, and also Sienna's ...

For many of us sex / lovemaking is something we learn from another amateur - usually a juvenile; we have little direct experience to judge anything by, and so we probably spend a lot of time wondering if other people do it better - and for most of us that is in the background for the rest of our sexually active lives - although habit and the familiarity of a long-time partner can make it recede.

Wouldn't it make sense if you couild learn from another well-experienced lover before the bad habits and uncertainties set in?

Shouldn't we therefore encourage generational-gap sex? Rather than looking askance at lovers who have a big age difference, shouldn't we be encouraging a young person to seek coaching from an older one. Of course it would take a few years for the right patterns to evolve - you don't want 35 year old virgins being partnered by 18 year old ones.

We pass on other skills from older to younger - why not the most important one of lovemaking?
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 29/08/2007 @ 16:52:07
As a 52 year old, I suppose I could be persuaded to join in if forced.
- - KandAmoist
  - 30/08/2007 @ 17:45:31
  In fact Mrs D did say to me more than once that she thought that once her daughters were of age she would encourage them to go with me so that they would get a proper introduction to good sex. Yes, I know that seems awfully close to being illegal and it is certanly very naughty - but I have to admit (DOM that I am) that it is rather a turn on. Shades of Alan Clarke with his coven of women - the South African judge's wife and her daughters!
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- Chyna_Doll
- 29/08/2007 @ 17:00:45
I learnt a lot about sex from my former 'older' lovers! LOL
- - KandAmoist
  - 30/08/2007 @ 17:47:08
  Excellent, I'm glad to hear it. The question is, should you now look for a young male or two to pass on the lessons to and thus perpetuate the "on the job" training scheme?
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- faffajane ^Pro
- http://faffajane.blog.co.uk/
- 29/08/2007 @ 18:16:50
A friend of mine has just married her lover - there is a 15 year age gap, she being older, and they are having the time of their lives sex wise

Probably would be a good idea
- - KandAmoist
  - 30/08/2007 @ 17:48:53
  Bravo! Good for them! The only problem is what happen (like most relationships) in 5 years time or so when the sexual xheistry has been diluted a bit .. will he want to instruct a younger lover?
  - - faffajane ^Pro
    - http://faffajane.blog.co.uk/
    - 30/08/2007 @ 18:12:32
    Must admit that did cross my mind
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 29/08/2007 @ 19:09:48
I think it is a good idea as well. I think you might have an ulterior motive, but I often wish that an older more experienced man had guided me and taken my virginity.
I was dating a guy when I was 18, he was about 30, married I think, but I never asked. We dated a few times, but he never tried anything, and I was so naive I thought he just liked my company, and maybe he did. My 2 year younger brother warned me off, lol. He took me to wonderful restaurants, way out of my means, but never more, strange really. I wonder how my life might have changed if he had deflowered me.
- - KandAmoist
  - 30/08/2007 @ 17:52:12
  Ulterior motive? I really don't know what you mean? (truly .. please tell me what you mean).
  
  At my age the likelihod of me instructing a virgin is so low as to be just not be probable at all. Mind you, Curvee is half my age and although not quite a virgin when we hooked up she seems to have benefited from my tuition. :0
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    - 30/08/2007 @ 20:48:23
    which proves my point. for someone to benefit she or he does not have to be a virgin, just inexperienced. The ulterior motive? : ) I think you would love to be a teacher to some of us more inexperienced women. Even I could benefit I am sure, but that is not an offer : )
    - - KandAmoist
      - 05/09/2007 @ 19:56:58
      Yes, I'd love to be a teacher, but I guess that I'm a bit worried about the adage "Those who can do, those who can't teach".
      - deleted user (Visitor)
        
        06/09/2007 @ 18:58:36
        
        well it would be a bit more than teaching wouldn't it. Teaching by doing, so best of both worlds
        
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- Sienna ^Pro
- 30/08/2007 @ 11:01:40
I might have mentioned it, but as I entered puberty I developed an interest in my parents' vast collection of sex-related books (some quite academic, some more for titillation) and I came across one (pardon the pun) which described the custom of a native tribe somewhere, where the boys and the girls are "initiated" by an older member of the opposite sex. I have to say, that got my fantasy going quite a bit!
- - smitty1247
  - 01/09/2007 @ 21:51:40
  I have heard similar stories of native tribes and it was mainly for the males to scare the shit out of them so they would hunt instead of chasing tail.
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- KandAmoist
- 30/08/2007 @ 17:55:03
Ah, those teenage fantasies! I fantasised about the woman next door .. I even flashed her, then got scared out of wits when she came to the door shortly after asking if my mother was in - I often wondered subsequently whether she did it to scare me, or if she intended something else and then her courage failed her at the last minute.
- - phinebooty
  - 10/09/2007 @ 12:49:33
  you would think her courage failed her wouldnt you? women in their 40s are more compatible(sexually with men in their late teens to early 20s. they are both in their sexual prime the boy learns the man benefits. for younger women with older men? i think for the men, they get a kick out of banging a young thing and possibly for the young thing is the assurance that they dont need to "perform" "keep the man" in case he runs off with their friends, so they can relax and maybe feel like someone cares about them because there isnt competition.
  
  i diagree about an elderly native deflowering young things. it's sick, let kids deflower each other if they must
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