After 4 years of incredibly intense and adventurous sex it seems as if I'm destined to be celibate. Almost.
As my friends know, Mrs DoItToMeHard and I had an incredible, fantastic sex life exploring all the pent up fantasies that our (lack of) sex lives with our partners had spawned. It also helped that we were both very sensual people. However a combination of time (most affairs peter out within 4 years), the stresses of our work conflicting with our personal lives, her husband's infidelity and threat of leaving her, and - the final straw - my reluctance to break my relationship with Curvee when Mrs D demanded it (a relationship which she had originally encouraged) meant that Mrs D resigned from "both positions" over a year ago. Although she said that she expected we'd have sex from time to time I wasn't so sure. It seems I was right. We have screwed just three or four times this year, and each time she has made a comment that that she can't have sex with me without feeling anger towards Curvee, who she sees as destroying the relationship. Personally, I believe that a lot of this anger is displaced / misplaced and should be / have been directed at her husband. She doesn't love him, doesn't permit or want him to have a sex life, and won't separate from him - lots of emotiponal issues there, I think. It doesn't help that hubby's affair was with Mrs D's ex best friend, and she has not been able - understandably - to come to terms with this betrayal of trust. She sees Curvee as betraying her by continuing the affair with me when she'd asked us both to stop. One's emotional state is seldom a simple thing to fathom!
We have virtually no reason to see each other socially and therefore the likelihood of the relationship rebuilding is completely unlikely.
However, just before she departed for her summer home she said that she'd like to come to the Big Business Ball with me in November. I can get two free tickets if I wish. She has accompanies me twice in the past and we've used it as a good reason to stay away overnight together and shag. However this time her main reason for wanting to go is to make contacts for her new job - she was quite open about it. But she commented that "I expect I'll feel like sex by then".
Meanwhile I've been so busy that I haven't been able to get away to see Curvee for many weeks - although we happily have a meeting arranged for Friday night. (Yippee - I'm going to get laid! - I hope)
My dilemma is this. Who should I invite to the ball? Mrs D is known as my assistant and has some good reasons to attend. But to my mind is using me primarily to further her business, and having spurned any interest in sex over many months I feel that she is simply using me to suit herself. And judging from our (few) previous performances this year the sex is going to be a long way from being great.
On the other hand if I invite Curvee I will also probably invite comment - she is a very attractive woman & so much younger than me. However we don't need to act "together" during the evening; she could simply be a colleague. Maybe the age difference is such that most people wouldn't think we were anything other than that.
So what do you think? How should I proceed? Who should I invite to the ball? Or should I just bring alog the male colleague who is pestering me for a ticket?