Gosh, where does time go? Its about time I brought everyone up to date with what's been happening. Mind you, I don't know if there's many of my long-standing blog friends who've followed my adventures over the year who are still around, here in blogland. I hope you are all well.
Briefly: after a rather long marraige and several affairs, one of which was incredbly adventurous, I decided enough was enough and that I should be true to myself and be single again.
After over a year on the market we finally managed to sell the house, having had to drop the price by nearly 20%. I have now moved into a eally nice village where I look forward to putting down roots.
My affair with Mrs D briefly revived when I returned from my long walk, but has now finally ended. We made great lovers, but she remained married while I was becoming single - the dynamic of the relationsip had changed. In the last 12 months I met one or two other people via the PlentyofFish dating website, and got too deeply involved with a woman there - she's really lovely but it's far too soon for me to have a proper, serious relationship, whilst she has been on her own for 8 years and is looking for someone permanent in her life. She's 10 year my junior and has very high libido and I am a bit worried that I can't keep up with her in bed ... I can outpace her walking ok! She's been very keen to try all the things that I've previously tried, and was already a bit of an exhibitionist. She was very keen to go to a swinging club ... I'll write separately about that adventure! Things got too deep and somewhat fraught for a while but have settled down a bit now. I hope we can maintain the "right" level of relationship until I am ready to ... whatever.
I've had a couple of holiday / weekends with people I met on the Camino de Santiago: Karin from Germany and Miriam in Paris, and both were really enjoyable. Karin and I hope to have regular holidays together, but she's now seeing a new guy and romance is definately in the air, so our friendship might be impacted.
Meanwhile in the next couple of weeks I've due to have visits from Eva from Germany and Susi from Italy - both of whom are old friends. Nothing other than chat will happen with Ruth but who knows about Susi?
Why is it, I wonder, that my friends are virtually all women? I know the answer to that as well, but I'll leave if for another time!
However not all is rosy. This has been a painful time for me, my two younger kids are just about speaking to me now, if they have to, but the eldest hasn't spoken to me since I came back from my long walk and told their mother I wanted to separate.
Parting from Mrs D has been hard. She has now decided to divorce her husband, but we both accept that although we (have) love(d) each other, we don't have a future together. I really can't see myself living with her nor she with me. Furthermore I've shown that I can too easily get too deeply involved with other women - going beyond the acceptable adventures with other people that we've had in the past.
I have actually started having councelling: I want to make sure that some of the issues that have dictated my sexual behaviour don't cause a problem in a future relationship, but I'm a bit worried that if I "cure" these things I might lose my mojo entirely! ![]()
So then, here I am, at the right old age of quite a lot, poised on the threshold of a new life. I hope I don't trip!